The Good News
Training to run my marathon in 2007 was excruciating at times, and I often wondered why I was even doing it. Looking back, it was worth every moment of pain.
The truth is, I had set a goal that forced me to go big or go home. It was a goal that would blow my own mind and force me to grow up, to become who I really wanted to be at that time.
I was wrong in my belief that I could not run a marathon. And that in itself was life-changing. But the in-between parts were where the growth happened.
Being Willing to Question Yourself
You and I have so many belief systems about ourselves, the world and other people that are just that–thoughts that we believe because of where we have let our minds dwell regularly.
“This is just who I am,” we say. What if it wasn’t?
The more we are open to question ourselves, the more we see who we really are, what life is really about and how other people tick. We discover what we truly believe and what we are capable of.
Human brains always scan the environment for evidence that supports thoughts that we already believe to be true. We seek to prove to ourselves that we are right, so we look for proof that supports our beliefs.
Like for example when you have convinced yourself that in order to alleviate anxiety, you have to have your situation changed. When your situation changes, your anxiety goes away, which is to you the confirmation that you are right in thinking that anxiety is linked to your situation.
But what if I told you that you can be free from anxiety long before your situation changes?
Or when you have a belief that says, “people are just terrible,” your brain will constantly scan your life experiences to find evidence that supports the idea that people are terrible, and you will interpret behaviors accordingly.
You think that you are observing the world as it is, but your brain is simply going out and finding evidence for your beliefs.
But what if I told you that you might be wrong and people are just human?
Being willing to be wrong
If you’re willing to be wrong, you might discover that anxiety has more to do with the thoughts you have about your situation than with the situation itself. If you are willing to be wrong, you can discover that people are amazing.
If you are willing to be wrong, you could actually put your brain to work to scan for that.
Directing your Brain
When you start to learn how to manage your mind to think something different, to find different evidence on purpose, you’ll start to uncover that your thoughts might not be as accurate as you thought they were. You discover that what you believe to be true could be wrong, and that there is a way to change them.
This is the essence of what God says in Romans 12: 2: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to prove what God’s will is—that which is good, and acceptable, and perfect.”
That is rewiring your brain at its best.
The more you practice managing your brain, the quicker you will find yourself reframing your thoughts.
This is your God-given right. As you learn to coach yourself, He empowers you to teach your own brain new skills.
Unless you’re paying attention to what is happening inside your mind, unless you’re directing your brain to challenge your thoughts, it will always prefer to think thoughts that it finds very easy to think and to find evidence for thoughts that it already believes.
The human brains like to be lazy and keep thinking the thoughts it already thinks because it is so much easier than to rewire itself. That takes work.
It takes energy to start questioning your thoughts and challenge them, and your brain will not do that unless you direct it to, unless you tell it to do it on purpose.
And that is really great news. Because as you do the work and blow your own mind because you discover what is possible, you will be in awe of your Creator.
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