Time for Self
We all know we need time away to regenerate, but finding it seems an impossible task.
Why is it so darn difficult for us moms to take out time for ourselves? Let me count the ways: baby needs to be fed, sippy cups must be washed, the toddler is throwing a fit instead of taking her nap, laundry is piling up, toys are all over the place, 52 emails in my inbox, and my mother-in-law needs a ride downtown. Plus about a million more reasons.
It’s just not feasible. Might as well give up.
I beg to differ.
Let’s talk about Time
Have you ever noticed how you can perceive the same 10 minutes as excruciating long or as ridiculously fast? Yet ten minutes is always 600 seconds long, no matter what.
Time gets away from us. We run after it. We spend it. We save it. We enjoy it.
Time is how we measure the moments of our lives. So taking time out for yourself is simply taking moments out for yourself. It needs not be a complicated task.
Don’t stress about taking time out for yourself. Breathe into it, and keep reading. There is a way.
Let’s talk about Carving
“Carving out time” for yourself is an interesting expression, isn’t it?
The definition of carve is “to cut so as to form something.”
Did you hear it? “CUT SO AS TO FORM SOMETHING.”
This has nothing to do with stealing time from your kids, your responsibilities, your life. It has everything to do with forming something, creating a life worth living, a life filled with purpose and joy.
When all is said and done, isn’t that what your kids, your husband, your job, your community longs for? A mom, a wife, an employee, a friend and neighbor filled with purpose and joy is exactly what will get the job done!
Let’s talk about Thoughts
If carving out time for yourself feels selfish, it is because of a thought about it that produces the feeling of selfishness. Our actions and results won’t be positive if that is where our mind is set. What story are you telling yourself about the time you choose to spend on yourself? to invest on yourself?
That story will determine your feeling.
Once you realize that the story you are telling yourself is causing you to fight against carving time out for yourself, you are ready to change the story. What thought (a thought is a sentence in your head) can you create that will help you on your journey to making time for you? This thought must be true to you.
Here are some examples of thoughts–or stories–that you could adopt: I am a better mom when I have time for me, this will reenergize me so I can do what I need to do, this is necessary to keep my sanity, my husband will love to see me refreshed, I can be more productive when I am not stressed, taking time out for myself will remove my stress.
Click Here is a great little video that might help.
Let’s talk about being practical:
Make a simple decision that you have needs that ought to be met, just like everybody else that you take care of. As you really make YOU a priority, you will actually discover that there is time available for you, even if it is just a moment at a time.
Take a good look at your week, and book out some time that you can do something just for you. It needs not be a five-hour window. It’s amazing what a 10 minutes soak in the tub does for the soul.
Unless there is a true emergency, don’t cancel on yourself. I probably have looked selfish many a time when I walked out of a meeting that went over the scheduled time because I knew I had a date with myself. But I know that this is what keeps me sane, and in the long run, much more enjoyable for the people around me.
Most importantly, the world will keep on spinning while you are taking time out for you! And that by itself is a serious revelation!
Commit with Others
Sometimes, it’s best to involve girlfriends in your “regeneration” time. If you sign up for a weekly exercise class with a friend, you are less likely to break the commitment than if you go at it alone.
Connect with other moms and barter babysitting. As a result, you will give yourself the precious gift of time as well as foster a stronger community.
Maybe you aren’t in a season where you can savor a long cup of coffee on Saturday morning. But that doesn’t mean you can’t listen to a great podcast while you fold the laundry. Take a look at your favorite ways to pamper yourself and figure out how you can fit them in your current reality.
“Everything is figure-outable.”
I believe it.
You are worth it.
What did you take away from this post? How are you going to carve out time for yourself? Tell us in the comments, we can all use new ideas! And if this was useful to you, please share it with your friends!
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