Last month, I wrote about seasons and the fact that they never ever change. They have been in motion for as long as the earth has been, and there is a very good chance that the pattern will not change. The sun gets up every morning, and goes down every night. Fall follows summer, which follows spring, which follows winter. It’s always been that way.
Yet there are things in life that we desperately need to see change. Like a financial situation, or a marriage, or just about any situation for that matter. But the sun goes up and the sun goes down; we can bank on that never changing. So let’s not put our hope in the unchangeable changing. It is naive and a waste of precious time and energy.
I have looked at situations and tried my best to change them. It did not work. I have looked at flaws in people and did everything in my power to change them. It did not work.
Wanna know the truth about change? It’s all on me.
I have to change.
No, it’s not the season’s fault, or my boss’s fault, or my employees’ fault. It’s me. I need to change. If I don’t like something, it’s up to me to change it. Or change me.
I own a business, and there are parts of my organization that do not function well. And it’s clear to me why: the people! They just never caught on to my vision, and they simply won’t do things my way. And it causes lots of messes and misunderstandings. Frustration. Tears. Violent thoughts. If they would just do things my way….
I have done all I know to do to change those people, and nothing works. For months, I concluded that my organization was doomed–these were key players, you know, the ones without whom everything will crumble. And I sat in the corner pouting.
Which did not change a thing.
Just made it worse in my own mind.
Until I finally realized and accepted this simple truth–it’s up to me. I have to change.
So I don’t like my organization the way it is? Change it!
So the people don’t catch on to my vision? Learn what makes them tick, listen carefully to them, work with them until they do, or release them and start over with new people.
Well, what if it takes forever? So what?
Really. So what?
Stop expecting others to do the changing. It’s your life. Your organization. Your marriage. Your financial situation. You change. You change it. You do it. You become it.
Own your life.