What Thoughts are You Practicing?

 Thoughts are Habits

You and I have thoughts (sentences in our head) about everything–from what size we should be to what America represents, with everything in between.  And most of us are not aware that those thoughts are habits that we repeat over and over again.

Actually, many of our thoughts that we have been thinking for years and years have been introduced to us as young children, and by now they are established neuropathways in our brain–strong habits of mind.

We consider them to be facts or observations. They just are the reality for us.

But they are not.

To add to the complexity of the problem, here are two interesting facts about our brain:

  • It is an amazing computer that likes to be super efficient. It repeats the same thoughts over and over again because the neuropathways are already established.
  • It doesn’t judge between thoughts that are good or bad. It just repeats the thoughts that are already there.

This is great if your brain is entertaining great thoughts like, “God is good,” or “I love my life.” If your thought is “my husband is cheating on me,” or “I can’t lose weight,” it may not be the best.

In order to change our thoughts, we need to be willing to go through a two-step process:

  1. Become aware of the thoughts we are thinking
  2. Practice on purpose thinking new thoughts that serve us.

I won’t talk about how to become aware of our present thoughts since this is the subject of quite a few past blog posts. 

Today, let’s explore two new thoughts that we may want to practice regularly in the future:

1. A great life is determined by the amazing goals you commit to, not necessarily achieve.

We often think that what makes our life amazing is the circumstances of our life, it’s what’s happening, it’s how much money we have, it’s our relationships, it’s our children.

But really, what makes our life amazing is what we think about.

And when we think about an amazing future, when we think about our life becoming and being even better than it is now, from a place of abundance, we get to create that experience now. The effect of our goals is experienced when we set them, not when we achieve them.

Think about Christmas.

Christmas feels amazing long before Christmas comes. The anticipation of Christmas, the imagining what it will be like is where the magic begins.

And that’s true for all of us in the goals that we commit to, not necessarily that we achieve.

Imagination, potential, and anticipation are what determines how amazing we feel about our life.

2. The discomfort of growth is always better than the discomfort of stagnation.

Here’s the thing–we can either feel uncomfortable growing or we can feel uncomfortable stagnating.

The discomfort of stagnating is a “rinse and repeat” kind of discomfort, an everyday boredom that creeps in.

The discomfort of growth keeps us evolving, moving forward, living in alignment with the purpose of our life.

And so there’s something very right about growth, there’s something very right about change and becoming the better best version of ourselves.

Our human instinct is to grow, to leave, to move, to create.

And when we honor that, we feel more alive.

 

What kinds of new thoughts would YOU like to practice? And how will you do that? Let’s hear it in the comments! New thoughts need to happen on purpose.

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Would Changing Something Make You Feel Better?

We human beings will change just about anything in an attempt to feel better. We’ll get a new haircut or/and new clothes, change our job, buy a new car, house or patio furniture, go see a movie, even move or change spouse.

Yet in the long run, how we look, where we live, what we have, who we hang out with, what we do–none of this changes us on the inside. It may make us feel better for a moment, a week or a month, but it will never, ever sustain the “happy” feeling in us in the long run.

And what’s crazy is, we know it!

In this short blog post, I am going to show you that it is possible to change how you feel, but it might not happen the way you think it will. The truth is so simple, yet so difficult to accept for most of us:

What creates how we feel is not the stuff or people around us, but what we are thinking.

We don’t feel bad because we live in a small apartment–we feel bad because of our thought about the fact that we live in a small apartment.

We aren’t unhappy because of our job or a difficult boss–we feel unhappy because of our thoughts about our job or a difficult boss.

And that’s really very good news because we have been born with the God-given ability to choose our thoughts.

But we have a problem: when it comes to questioning or changing our thoughts, we have convinced ourselves that it is an impossible task.

We believe that our thoughts are just what they are, and that they are not up for discussion.

The irony is, changing our thoughts is the only thing that will actually make us feel better.

But that is very hard work.

What if we really could decide to think about our small apartment, our job or our boss in a way that serves us?

What if we could ask ourselves what feeling we need in order to do well in any situation, and then figure out what thought we need to create in order to have that feeling?

What if we allowed people to be who they are and change our thoughts about them instead of trying to change them?

If we want to feel better, we have to be open to looking at our thoughts and question them.

Where do we begin?

Right here, right now.

Take a minute to answer these questions in writing:

What are my thoughts about my current situation?

What am I telling yourself that my situation means? By the way, situations are neutral–they carry no feelings. Our interpretation of it is what causes us harm or well-being

And that’s the absolute truth.

Change your interpretation, and you will change your life experience!

DOing this kind of work destroys overwhelm. It’s fascinating and life-changing!  If you would like some help in figuring out how to change your thoughts in a particular situation, book a free mini-session with me; I’d love to help you!

Was this helpful to you? Please share it if it was. Most of us need to change our thoughts more than our haircuts.