Thoughts are Habits
You and I have thoughts (sentences in our head) about everything–from what size we should be to what America represents, with everything in between. And most of us are not aware that those thoughts are habits that we repeat over and over again.
Actually, many of our thoughts that we have been thinking for years and years have been introduced to us as young children, and by now they are established neuropathways in our brain–strong habits of mind.
We consider them to be facts or observations. They just are the reality for us.
But they are not.
To add to the complexity of the problem, here are two interesting facts about our brain:
- It is an amazing computer that likes to be super efficient. It repeats the same thoughts over and over again because the neuropathways are already established.
- It doesn’t judge between thoughts that are good or bad. It just repeats the thoughts that are already there.
This is great if your brain is entertaining great thoughts like, “God is good,” or “I love my life.” If your thought is “my husband is cheating on me,” or “I can’t lose weight,” it may not be the best.
In order to change our thoughts, we need to be willing to go through a two-step process:
- Become aware of the thoughts we are thinking
- Practice on purpose thinking new thoughts that serve us.
I won’t talk about how to become aware of our present thoughts since this is the subject of quite a few past blog posts.
Today, let’s explore two new thoughts that we may want to practice regularly in the future:
1. A great life is determined by the amazing goals you commit to, not necessarily achieve.
We often think that what makes our life amazing is the circumstances of our life, it’s what’s happening, it’s how much money we have, it’s our relationships, it’s our children.
But really, what makes our life amazing is what we think about.
And when we think about an amazing future, when we think about our life becoming and being even better than it is now, from a place of abundance, we get to create that experience now. The effect of our goals is experienced when we set them, not when we achieve them.
Think about Christmas.
Christmas feels amazing long before Christmas comes. The anticipation of Christmas, the imagining what it will be like is where the magic begins.
And that’s true for all of us in the goals that we commit to, not necessarily that we achieve.
Imagination, potential, and anticipation are what determines how amazing we feel about our life.
2. The discomfort of growth is always better than the discomfort of stagnation.
Here’s the thing–we can either feel uncomfortable growing or we can feel uncomfortable stagnating.
The discomfort of stagnating is a “rinse and repeat” kind of discomfort, an everyday boredom that creeps in.
The discomfort of growth keeps us evolving, moving forward, living in alignment with the purpose of our life.
And so there’s something very right about growth, there’s something very right about change and becoming the better best version of ourselves.
Our human instinct is to grow, to leave, to move, to create.
And when we honor that, we feel more alive.
What kinds of new thoughts would YOU like to practice? And how will you do that? Let’s hear it in the comments! New thoughts need to happen on purpose.
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