What You Say about Yourself Matters Big Time!

It is so amazing to me how relevant the Bible is to everyday life.

As a life coach, it gives me the perfect map to help my clients. This week, I came across this passage in John 1, verses 22-23: “Finally they said, ‘Who are you? Give us an answer to take back to those who sent us. What do you say about yourself?’ John replied in the words of Isaiah the prophet, ‘I am the voice of one calling in the wilderness, “Make straight the way for the Lord.”‘”

What do you say about yourself?

They asked John such a powerful question: “What do you say about yourself?”

I find his answer fascinating.

John actually found himself in the Scriptures. What he found was the foundation of his answer . He quoted word for word, saying, ‘I am the voice of one calling in the wilderness.’

He then went about modeling his life after that.

What you say about determines the direction of your life

We see it in John the Baptist, but we can also see it in our own personal lives.

“I am a person who quickly gets overwhelmed,” turns into a person who gets quickly overwhelmed.

How does that work?

It’s really quite simple: your brain constantly looks for evidence of your thoughts, which are mainly the reason you say what you are saying. It may have started as a simple observation: on a particular day, you let yourself be overwhelmed by your situation, so you stated, “I am a person who quickly gets overwhelmed.”

With one little statement, you “branded” yourself as a “quickly overwhelmed person,” and from that moment on, your brain sought to prove you right. The more often you got overwhelmed, the more you believed yourself, and this then became the way you are.

If instead, you would have said, “I just got quickly overwhelmed that one day,” none of this would have happened. Isn’t that crazy?

What you say about yourself matters. It paints your life one color or another.

What you say about yourself paints a picture for others

It is no accident that when interviewed for a possible new job, we are asked the question, “What do you say about yourself?”

They understand that humans generally speak out of what is in their minds, and therefore your answers give them an inkling of what kind of person you are. Your words brand you. They paint a picture of who you are to them.

You determine your life’s story by what you say about yourself

Your words about yourself to yourself and others shape the direction of your life.

And the amazing truth is that you get to choose what story you want to find yourself in.

How to get started?

You cannot tell yourself a different story about yourself unless you know what story you are speaking now. You must always start with what is.

STEP ONE: Pick one area of your life (my love life, my weight, my professional life, my family life, my personal growth, etc) and take a few minutes (at least three) to write down what you are saying about yourself right now. Writing is long-hand is best if you can, as it will force you to think more clearly as the writing is slower.

STEP TWO: Read what you just wrote and decide if you like that story or not. Circle, underline, cross out… be bold!

STEP THREE: Begin a new story. Write:

I am rewriting my story… What am I saying about myself?

and keep going, for at least three minutes

STEP FOUR: Let it rest for at least 24 hours, then come back to your new story and re-read it. Tweak it, change it, rewrite it.

Continue this process until you are pleased with your story.

Then go out and start living it!

Next week, we’ll talk about how.

Word of caution, though: Make sure you are absolutely honest in what you write. You must stay in integrity with yourself, or your brain won’t like nor accept your statement!


So, what’s YOUR next step? Share it in the comments so we can cheer you on! And please share this blog post (from the bar at the top) with your friends! I bet one of them needs this!


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