Who do You Spend Time With?

When I was a teenager, I hung around the wrong crowd for a while–anything for acceptance, you know? Little by little, my thoughts started to change. Then my actions, clothing, speech, and demeanor followed. A young girl full of life became dark, depressed, and totally self-absorbed. It wasn’t a pretty picture!

It’s been said many times over, “You become like the five people you spend the most time with.” This is true intellectually, spiritually and even financially.

My life sure proved it!

The people we spend time with have a direct influence on the choices we make and our mindset. Try to hang out with overly negative people for a while, and see how this will affect your thinking.  On the other hand, when you surround yourself with positive people for long enough, you start seeing things in a different light. Have you ever hung around a group of “health nuts” for a while? There is no way you can continue to eat junk and lay around all day–it just doesn’t happen.

Whether we like it or not, we are influenced by the people we spend time with. It’s part of the human experience.

Let’s look at our attitude towards money for example. If no one in your circle of friends is seeking to better themselves financially, it probably isn’t something that you will be thinking about much. If however, your friends are all about getting out of debt and building a financial legacy, you will more than likely join their quest.


It all comes back to the story we collectively entertain, the unspoken norm that we adopt in mind first of all, and then in actions.

Want to become someone who is full of joy? Choose to be in the presence of joy-full people! Want to grow in your service to humankind? Choose to be in the presence of those who serve well.

When you choose to surround yourself with those who go in the direction you want to go, you are setting yourself up for progress in that area.

Don’t hold back. Your life depends on it.

So, here’s how to get started:

  1. Make a list of the five people you spend most of your time with.
  2. Ask yourself: do I want to become like them? what do they have that I want in terms of value, lifestyle, how they spend their time, education?
  3. If you don’t like your answers, who would you like to be influenced by? Make a list.
  4. Here is the challenging step: make a decision to start a conversation with one of those people–maybe a facebook message, or just a “like” on one of their posts (friends of mine got married after such a “like”),a phone call, an invitation for coffee, etc. The sky is the limit.

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