Our thoughts aren’t just creating how we feel. They drive our actions. And everything action or non-action, all we do or don’t do in life creates more evidence for the original thought. Isn’t that crazy?
Here is an example from my everyday life: When I entertain the thought, “I can’t figure this out,” I feel frustrated. As a result of that frustration, I will likely quit. And when I give up, I create more evidence for the belief that I cannot figure it out.
It works this way with everything. You might have a thought “I deserve it.” You think that to yourself, and you feel entitled. When you feel entitled, you have a drink or you eat the cookie, or you buy the dress or take a nap. Whatever it is, you took your action based on the thought “I deserve it.” And then you begin to teach your brain that the thing that you deserve most is the reward of dopamine that you get from these false pleasures.
If you have a thought like “I hate the way I look,” and you feel disgusted, what do you start doing when you feel disgusted? You probably start trying to fix all the flaws that you see. Or you might hide. You might tell yourself I don’t ever want to see what I look like in the mirror. Either way, the more you try to fix your appearance, the more you hide from your appearance, the more you create evidence that the way you look is wrong.
Your thoughts will always prove themselves true.
Our brain always scans for evidence, trying to prove your thoughts true. This is why we stay stuck in habits. The think-feel-act cycle that is constantly running is actually creating that evidence. We think we are just seeing reality when in fact, we are simply seeing reality through the lens of our thinking.
Unless we love the results that we have in our life, we must be willing to practice thinking new thoughts. How do we cultivate this skill? We must start with being open to the possibility that our lens, our thoughts might not be accurate. We have to be willing to be wrong. This will change everything.
Ready to give it a try?
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